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Why do we use critical labels and how can we approach them constructively?

Bully; Arrogant; Loser; Taker Narcissist; Bi-polar; Victim, Addict “Middle-class”; “Working-class”; “Posh” *&%@! (Offensive words based on race, ethnicity, religion, sexuality and gender) “Terrorist Sympathiser”; “Terrorist” . . . They are all labels; used disparagingly, and frequently, in all areas life. They stigmatise, exclude, polarise, pigeonhole and stereotype. Labels exist, and will continue to exist – […]

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WHAT HAPPENS WHEN WE ARGUE PART II

THE BLAME-GAME: why and how it happens, its impact on our self-esteem and how to disengage. When things go wrong at work, with someone in the service industry, socially or at home, we engage in a blame-game to defend our shaken self-esteem. As our instinctual reaction to defend ourselves kicks in, we remain locked in […]

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WHY IS THERE SO MUCH FEAR AROUND CONFLICT WHEN IT’S SUCH A NORMAL PART OF OUR LIVES?

Mention the words ‘conflict’ and ‘conflict resolution’ and it raises some interesting responses. Three of the most common are: denial of having any conflict in one’s life, interest in the subject, or a mixture of the two – some interest, followed by a polite distancing, as if the ‘condition’ were contagious. So why is there such […]

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