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Conflict Resolution for the Family

Why do we use critical labels and how can we approach them constructively?

Bully; Arrogant; Loser; Taker Narcissist; Bi-polar; Victim, Addict “Middle-class”; “Working-class”; “Posh” *&%@! (Offensive words based on race, ethnicity, religion, sexuality and gender) “Terrorist Sympathiser”; “Terrorist” . . . They are all labels; used disparagingly, and frequently, in all areas life. They stigmatise, exclude, polarise, pigeonhole and stereotype. Labels exist, and will continue to exist – […]

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HOW TO OVERCOME RESENTMENT AND CHANGE DIFFICULT DYNAMICS

Is resentment holding you back? What can you do to change the situation in a constructive and empowering way? Years ago, when I was adapting to the nuances of the English language, I asked a friend “Do you say: “to bear a grudge or ‘to bear grudge’?” (i.e. without the ‘a’)  His answer: “It depends […]

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Guilt, Conflict and the Drama Triangle of Persecutor, Rescuer and Victim

  Most of us are familiar with guilt; be it through a feeling of wrongdoing, or as a driver for something we ‘ought’ to do. When either of these experiences takes hold the result is a cocktail of resentment, blame and power struggles. If our reaction is to: attack, or rescue and placate, or take […]

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What defensive communication style do you adopt to change interpersonal relations?

Change: love it, hate it, want it, resist it; want it on our terms, at our pace . . . We all react differently, and our own reactions will vary depending on the circumstances, mood and people we’re interacting with. When we’re triggered, our communication style can become defensive, whether in a passive, passive-aggressive or […]

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THE SECRET CHRISTMAS RECIPE FOR CLEAR COMMUNICATION

 Don Miguel Ruiz “The Four Agreements.” It’s not always easy to be full of festive cheer when tense feelings lurk beneath the Christmas tree. Family gatherings can trigger old dynamics and emotions, even when we feel we’ve personally resolved them. By responding differently, we can break patterns and turn a problem into an opportunity for understanding and […]

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